5 steps to your highest self

I haven’t always been this version of me.

In fact, I remember being shy, quiet, and reserved and the kind of girl who wanted to blend in just in case she made a mistake.

That version of me? She’s long gone. But not forgotten.

She was my defence mechanism. She kept me safe by keeping me small.I didn’t want to be seen trying. Or worse, failing.
The idea of putting myself out there felt embarrassing.So I hid behind perfectionism and played it safe.

But there came a moment where I realised: I was hiding from the woman I was meant to become.

If you’re her right now, here are the exact steps I took to meet my highest self.

1. Visualise Her — Every Day

Close your eyes. See her walking into rooms with soft power.
Feel the way she carries herself. What does her morning look like? Who does she talk to? What does she never settle for? Spend 5 minutes each day in this quiet imagining. Our nervous system doesn’t know the difference between imagination and memory so feed it a future worth remembering.

2. Journal from Her Mindset

Not “dear diary. ”This is a download from your highest self to your now self.
Write like she’s mentoring you. Ask questions and let her answer.
Use prompts like:

“What would my highest self do in this moment?”
“What am I no longer available for?”
“If I were already her, how would I show up today?”

3. Dress Like Her Now

Style is vibration. It’s less about trends, more about energy.
Does your highest self wear clean tailoring, silks, linen, fresh skin, glossy lips, signature scent? Or oversized sunnies, black blazers, slicked hair and no nonsense?

Either way, wear your alignment.Even in loungewear. Even in corner shops.
Let every mirror reflect her back at you.

4. Curate Your Spaces Like Her World

Your surroundings shape your becoming. Think less Pinterest perfect, more intentional elevation. Add one luxe thing to your room like a candle. Go where she would go, book the gallery ticket. Sit in hotel lobbies. Work from beautiful cafés.